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The man who asked me directions on the subway seven years ago: I am so sorry for sending you to Queens rather than to the Bronx.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 August 2017 source ↗
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To myself. I am my harshest critic.
Adam Peaty
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To the people who, because of my career, I cannot spend time with. I have to be selfish, unfortunately.
Josette Simon
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My dear friend Katy. I’m sorry that I couldn’t stop you from making the most devastating decision. She committed suicide.
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