“You’re selfish.” It was a friend.
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You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
“Do you know what your problem is?” It was a dear friend of mine. They were referring to the fact that I’m impatient.
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A friend said, “If you remembered everything you did, you’d kill yourself.” He’s sort of crazy, but he’s probably right.
I stopped drinking 18 or 19 years ago, and in an argument someone who will remain nameless said: “Oh just go and have a drink.” It was nasty.
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