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My mother and my brother would still be alive. So much of my life has been coping with the grief of losing them.
The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 April 2023 source ↗
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If you could revise one chapter of your past, what would you change?Originally asked
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Shaun Ryder
English singer
The 12 years I spent in receivership. That was me being a dick. I lost the court case when I wanted to sack my management and had to pay them £120,000. I said, “I am not paying you, because I should have won.”
Shaznay Lewis
English singer
Some of those late nights.
Ronnie Wood
English rock musician
All the hanging about.
Edward Fox
British actor
The years between 13 and 17, which I think are very formative, and the rather arid public school upbringing I had at Harrow.
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People who can’t hear other points of view. Absolute certainty always scares me a little.
The summer of 1997. My husband, who is an American, gave up everything to come and live with me in Edinburgh when we were students, and we were so skint but we had so much fun.
To my younger self. I was incredibly self-loathing and self-doubting, and I’m still undoing that damage 30 years later.
When I was about 18, I worked on the chicken counter in a large supermarket, and every morning I had to pierce 64 birds on to industrial skewers to load up the rotisserie. That was very grim.
My creative freedom. I was the creative director of a large fashion brand when I packed it all in to pursue my writing.
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