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My younger self: I had no love for her and I was cruel and she never deserved it.
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Mandy Patinkin
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To my father, for not telling him the truth when he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and going along with the family lie that he had hepatitis, when he knew he didn’t. At the age of 17, I lacked the courage and strength to stand up for what I believed.
Martin Freeman
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I say it a lot to my kids when I’ve lost my temper, and I’ll save up a big one for when they are 18.
My kids. I think if you don’t want to say sorry to your kids you’ve been an appalling parent.
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My wedding day last year. It was supposed to be 4 April and, in the end, it was 12 September.
I used to do silver service waitressing at parties and events. The job was great, but there was constant harassment and groping from older men, and I hadn’t found my voice yet. It’s terrifying when you are young and you need a job.
Spending over half my life under Tory rule.
My nan. She lost her husband at the end of 2019 and over the past year she’s been in isolation, but every single week when we speak, she’s full of hope.
During lockdown, I found out I wasn’t pregnant any more.
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