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Who most deserves an apology from you, and why?

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Martin Sheen American actor
My son Ramón was the victim of my wrath at a particular time that still withers me with disgrace.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 March 2017 source ↗
Patricia Hodge English actress
I wish I could say sorry to my husband, because I couldn’t save him from his dementia.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 September 2018 source ↗
Vanessa Redgrave British actress and activist
I would very, very much like to say sorry to my mother, for all the times I told her I hadn’t got the time to talk.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 September 2018 source ↗
My wife. I made mistakes in my early life and hurt her. Everybody thinks the grass is greener, but it’s not. To say sorry to her when she understands will be one of the greatest gifts God has given me.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 9 February 2019 source ↗
Judith Kerr British writer and illustrator
My parents. We didn’t realise how absolutely desperate they were when we left Germany, because my father couldn’t earn anything. A letter turned up fairly recently in which he said, “We’ve been through a terrible time because Julia [my mother] never stopped talking about suicide and not just for herself, but to take the children with her.”
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 18 May 2019 source ↗
Bianca Jagger Nicaraguan human rights advocate
To my daughter, because she felt that I spent too much time saving other children. I would go to war zones and travel the world for human rights work, and she was missing me.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2020 source ↗
Jacqueline Wilson English novelist
A little girl called Pat. We were nine-year-olds together and all the class made her life a misery. I knew she wanted to be my friend and I would only be friends with her if nobody else was around. I feel dreadful about that.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 21 May 2022 source ↗
To my mother for disappointing her. Mummy wanted me to be a different sort of person from who I am, but one can’t change oneself.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 July 2025 source ↗

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