Shortly after my terminal diagnosis, I knew that one of my biggest priorities was to create memories for my children. Chloe and Logan are both so young that it's likely they'll have no direct memories of me. Dylan is the oldest, and at 5 (turns 6 in December), his memories are likely to be fuzzy. Hence the engineering question: What would make for the sharpest, most visceral memory, esp. for a kid who loves animals? Answer: go for a Dolphin Swim!
Death & what remains
What would you like to leave your children?
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A sense of optimism.
A strong work ethic and enough wealth not to need it.
I’ve got no kids, but I’d like us to leave a planet for everyone’s children.
Good memories. When I’m gone, I want them to feel that they were always my No 1 priority.
A house in west London.
My Siamese cat, which I had freeze-dried after she died. I really think their future partners will like it.
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@aliabbasi
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I want to leave my children three foundational tools to navigate the world:
Life skills: The practical capability and independence to take care of themselves, solve everyday problems, and handle adult responsibilities with ease.
Confidence: A self-belief rooted in resilience, knowing they have worth, deserve to take up space, and can handle failure without letting it define them.
A sense of humor: The ability to find levity in life's absurdity, laugh at themselves, and keep perspective when things don't go according to plan.
If they leave home with these three things, they'll have everything they need to build a meaningful life.
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