It’s a gift to let yourself be changed by a person, and for a person to allow you to change them.
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Being exquisitely alive.
Adam Gopnik
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Writing about how much you love your wife is bad form, it seems like boasting
I’ve learned that true love shouldn’t be complicated. It’s the safety and freedom to be seen and celebrated for who you truly are.
Daryl McCormack
Irish actor
A sense of home.
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