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Which quality in your friends matters most to you?

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Vanity Fair, to its interview subject, The Proust Questionnaire

A fixed Vanity Fair Proust Questionnaire item asked across its three-decade archive, with independent variants in friendship and profile interviews.

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Warren Buffett Chairman and chief executive of Berkshire Hathaway, 1970–2025
The asset I most value, aside from health, is interesting, diverse, and long-standing friends.
Recorded His own pledge letter, written on joining the Giving Pledge in 2010, The Giving Pledge, 2010 source ↗
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar Basketball player and author
Loyalty. Not fawning, but a loyalty based on our shared love and history that fosters compassion and forgiveness.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 27 August 2020 source ↗
Edmund Hillary Mountaineer and explorer; first ascent of Everest, 1953
I personally wouldn’t be, if I could possibly help it, involved in a serious pursuit in which there weren’t a few people who could laugh a bit about it. Because I can remember many occasions — maybe we’ve been stuck in a tent or we’re up on the side of a mountain, this heavy snow, avalanches all around us, and we can’t get up and we can’t get down, but we just sat in the tent and reminisced about occasions and days gone by and laughed about old jokes and all the rest of it. Then you really have a very good time, even though you’re sort of poised there between disaster both up and down. People who can make you laugh under those circumstances are very valuable indeed in an expedition.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview source ↗
Pelé Brazilian footballer; three-time World Cup winner
Loyalty. Most of my friends have been around me for decades.
Recorded The Proust Questionnaire, Vanity Fair, 1 April 2014 source ↗

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Question Which writers or artists have most influenced your work? Taste & recommendation
Well, there were, you know, several poses that was known for everybody, that is known for certain poses. And to me it was the three-quarter back pose. And it was a very difficult pose to do, to twist your body and to show the small waist and to show at the same time your wide shoulders, your back. And you also see the front and you see the abs and you see the calf and the thighs and all of those things. But it was a difficult pose to do. Very few bodybuilders could master it. I copied basically Reg Park, who was my idol and who won three times the Mr. Universe competition. And he was known for that pose in a kneeling position and in a standing position. And so because he was my idol, I was, you know, absolutely fanatic to copy his poses and then to kind of improve on that. And that's exactly what I did.
Recorded David Greene, Talk of the Nation, NPR, 2 October 2012 source ↗
Question Which teacher, parent, coach, or friend most made you who you are, and what did you learn from them? Relationships
My father would make sure that I knew what it meant. Just to give you an example, I started bodybuilding with the age of 15, and my father would say, why are you lifting these dumbbells and barbells? Don't you think it would be better to just go out and chop some wood and shovel some coal for some poor people that don't have anyone? Therefore you would get muscles. But at the same time, you're doing something useful. You're doing something for somebody rather than just for yourself and looking in a mirror at yourself and stuff like that. So he would make sure that you knew what being useful meant.
Recorded A Martínez, Morning Edition, NPR, 6 October 2023 source ↗
Question Do you rely more on inspiration or discipline to make your work? Craft & work
It's just, I would say, faith. I had very clear visions of me being a champion. When I saw this picture of Reg Park on a cover, standing there like - as Hercules, from the Hercules movies, I looked at that, and then I looked at the inside and I read the story, and I immediately started creating visions of me standing there on the pedestal at the Mr. Universe contest and me being Hercules and me doing movies and so on. And that created such unbelievable drive and such unbelievable will and discipline, that there was absolutely no stopping me. I mean, I went to the gym two hours every day lifting weights. When I came home afterwards, I lifted an extra hour and a half and did bodybuilding training, and it was just relentless.
Recorded David Greene, Talk of the Nation, NPR, 2 October 2012 source ↗

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