Their goddamned fucking honesty.
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A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
Ignorance and rudeness. Decency and a please and thank you cost nothing.
The Q&A, The Guardian, 20 September 2025 source ↗
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