I call it “stolen time”—there’s nothing more valuable than stolen time. It happens to me sometimes when I’ve set up a meeting at my studio at a certain time and it gets cancelled on short notice. When it happens, I’m like a giddy child. I think, “Wow, I’ve stolen half an hour. It’s so exciting—I can do whatever I want!”
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How close have you come to death?
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What important truth do very few people agree with you on?
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What advice would you give your twenty-year-old self, and what should they ignore?
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A few years ago, I started wearing this as a uniform of sorts. It has removed all my anxieties about clothing. I now know what I'll be wearing in both summer and winter.
Charlotte Philby, My secret life, The Independent, 1 May 2009 source ↗
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Brian Eno
Composer, record producer and visual artist
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Max Dax, Eno's London studio, 2011, Telekom Electronic Beats, 1 January 2011
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Geoff Dyer
Essayist and novelist
Have more than one idea on the go at any one time. If it’s a choice between writing a book and doing nothing I will always choose the latter. It’s only if I have an idea for two books that I choose one rather than the other. I always have to feel that I’m bunking off from something.
Shinya Yamanaka
Stem cell biologist; Nobel laureate in Physiology or Medicine, 2012
Well actually I was at home. I was doing some housework. So I was very surprised.
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Adam Smith, Telephone interview recorded shortly after the prize announcement, October 2012, Nobel Prize Outreach, 1 October 2012
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Toni Morrison
Novelist and editor; Nobel laureate in Literature, 1993
I, at first, thought I didn’t have a ritual, but then I remembered that I always get up and make a cup of coffee while it is still dark—it must be dark—and then I drink the coffee and watch the light come. And she said, “Well, that’s a ritual.” And I realized that for me this ritual comprises my preparation to enter a space that I can only call nonsecular … For me, light is the signal in the transition. It’s not being in the light, it’s being there before it arrives. It enables me, in some sense.
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It’s very gratifying to grow utterly incensed by the Mail Online and come away from it full of fury and absolute outrage at its prejudice and xenophobia — and support for Brexit.
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