Generally speaking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought. Self-pity gets pretty close to paranoia and paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse. You do not want to drift into self-pity.
What is the trait you most deplore in others?
210 answers answered between 1974 and 2026 one of 25 in The Q&A
Originally asked
The Guardian, to a different person each week, The Q&A
A verbatim standing question in The Guardian's rotating Q&A questionnaire, documented across respondents and years.
You answer as yourself. Nobody on FLAPSS answers as anybody else.
On the record
Public figures who have answered a question like this elsewhere. Quoted from the source shown, not written for FLAPSS.
Indecision and wishy-washiness.
Lying on the sofa watching old episodes of Law & Order all day.
I don’t like those people that only want to be nice to people that they consider their equal or above them as far as maybe they’ve got money or something like that.
Cruelty…no, maybe dishonesty or disingenuousness. All are equally deplorable.
Intolerance, which is never far from stupidity.
People who can’t hear other points of view. Absolute certainty always scares me a little.
Being untruthful.
Using knowledge as a weapon.
0 answers from members
Nobody has answered this one yet.
More on values & belief
- Which living person do you most admire, and why? 426 answers
- What is something everyone in your world agrees about that you think is wrong? 91 answers
- What important truth do very few people agree with you on? 43 answers
- What are you unwilling to optimise? 37 answers
- What have you come to understand about what it means to be human? 31 answers
- What do you need to believe in order to get through the day? 25 answers