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What has been most rewarding about being a parent?

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Barack Obama

44th President of the United States, 2009–2017; United States Senator from Illinois 2005–2008

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My daughters are something, and they just surprise and enchant and impress me more and more every single day as they grow up. And so these days, when we talk, we talk as parent to child, but also we learn from them.

Christi Parsons, James S. Brady Press Briefing Room, the White House, The White House (Obama administration archive), 18 January 2017 source ↗

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David Oyelowo Actor, director and producer
Being a father teaches you very quickly that you are not the center of your own universe. That’s one of the gifts of having to wipe poop!
Recorded The Talks, 25 February 2015 source ↗
Vince Gill Musician, singer and songwriter
Boy, being a parent is a hard job, I think, because in parenting you want your kids to like you. Too much sometimes. It’s a hard line to find between doing what’s necessary to give them the tools to be good kids and make good decisions and all that, versus just completely not giving them a chance to accomplish anything because you do everything for them. I kind of feel like it’s okay if these kids go out and make a few mistakes, because they’re going to learn. The last ten years have been interesting, because I’m a stepparent to three kids, and I’m a father to two kids, an older and a younger. And it’s a real interesting dynamic.
Recorded Academy of Achievement, Academy of Achievement interview, Nashville, Tennessee, 1 April 2004 source ↗
Scott Simon Host of NPR’s Weekend Edition Saturday
My greatest joy as a father is to see our children growing up and growing independent, and becoming brilliant ... But also every now and then needing me for something and remembering where I can fit into the world. And one of the great joys you realize is that you need them ... You work for their smile. You work for their joy.
Recorded Geoff Bennett, PBS NewsHour, Father’s Day interview, 19 June 2022 source ↗
Frances Arnold Chemical engineer; Nobel laureate in Chemistry, 2018
He says that he has the job of his dreams, which is the greatest joy that I can feel, is to have my child say he has the job of his dreams.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, Pasadena, California, 18 January 2019 source ↗

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Question What is the hardest thing that has happened to you, and what did you carry out of it? Failure & regret
I was raised by a heroic single mom, wonderful grandparents -- made incredible sacrifices for me. … But I sure wish I had had a father who was not only present, but involved. Didn't know my dad. And so my whole life, I've tried to be for Michelle and my girls what my father was not for my mother and me. … I want to be a better father, a better husband, a better man.
Recorded Morehouse College, Atlanta, Georgia, The White House (Obama administration archive), 19 May 2013 source ↗
Question What are you unwilling to optimise? Values & belief
There are some things about being president that I still have difficulty doing. … For example, faking emotion. Because I feel it is an insult to the people I'm dealing with. For me to feign outrage, for example, feels to me like I'm not taking the American people seriously. I'm absolutely positive that I'm serving the American people better if I'm maintaining my authenticity. And that's an overused word. And these days people practice being authentic. But I'm at my best when I believe what I am saying.
Recorded Michael Lewis, Vanity Fair, October 2012 issue, 11 September 2012 source ↗
Question Which virtue do you think people overrate? Values & belief
Security. People naturally resist change in our personal lives. … Malia, actually, was the one who brought it up because she says, 'You know, one of the things that happens is sometimes transitions are hard, and I really enjoy my life, and I like how things are going.' And I said, 'Get in the habit of being able to embrace change, and what's new. Because you don't want to live your life where, you are held back because you've gotten too comfortable, and you are afraid of what might be out there around the corner.'
Recorded Barbara Walters, ABC News 20/20, broadcast 23 December 2011, 22 December 2011 source ↗
Question What lesson has mattered most in your life? Time & hindsight
I believe in this country. I believe in the American people. I believe that people are more good than bad. I believe tragic things happen, I think there's evil in the world, but I think that at the end of the day, if we work hard, and if we're true to those things in us that feel true and feel right, that the world gets a little better each time.
Recorded Christi Parsons, James S. Brady Press Briefing Room, the White House, The White House (Obama administration archive), 18 January 2017 source ↗
Question In the last five years, what new belief, behaviour, or habit has most improved your life? Daily life
You'll see I wear only gray or blue suits. … I'm trying to pare down decisions. I don't want to make decisions about what I'm eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make. … You need to focus your decision-making energy. You need to routinize yourself. You can't be going through the day distracted by trivia.
Recorded Michael Lewis, Vanity Fair, October 2012 issue, 11 September 2012 source ↗
Question What disappointment has stayed with you longest? Failure & regret
If you ask me where has been the one area where I feel that I've been most frustrated and most stymied it is the fact that the United States of America is the one advanced nation on earth in which we do not have sufficient common-sense, gun-safety laws. Even in the face of repeated mass killings. … And for us not to be able to resolve that issue has been something that is distressing. But it is not something that I intend to stop working on in the remaining 18 months.
Recorded Jon Sopel, BBC News interview, the White House, 24 July 2015 source ↗

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