Take no notice of anyone you don’t respect. […] Take no notice of anyone with a gender agenda. A lot of men still think that women lack imagination of the fiery kind.
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Certain people really aren’t getting their emails answered. Certain people are getting their emails answered at a very deliberate and delayed rate. There are certain things that I’m passing up that people think that I should be taking, jumping at and clapping over. There’s a certain amount of refusal happening right now because I’ve got to prioritize my health and my ancestral mandates.
Keisha N. Knight, Filmmaker Magazine, 8 April 2021 source ↗
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Derek Sivers
Founder of CD Baby; author of Anything You Want
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I’ve turned down opportunities constantly. I turn down invitations to do things for money. I have almost no interest in making money.
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