At a pub in Rotherham. I was a really bad waitress and I ended up being demoted to chopping the potatoes and I even got fired from that.

I worked in the largest pork pie factory in Europe. I had a plastic mushroom-shaped thing and had to tamp down the meat into the pie base. It was a conveyor belt of pies from nine to five. The worst thing was the crackly AM radio, which was played loudly through the tinny tannoy system. I still can’t listen to I’m Not In Love by 10cc without thinking of raw minced pork.

Being a cocktail waitress and having to wear a compromising dress in an unwoke 1990s world.

There have been things within the Kaiser Chiefs I’ve hated – some corporate gigs that I didn’t feel good doing.

Outliving my kids – and rats.

Professionally, becoming a relative success in a job that I love; and personally, helping to raise two wonderful children.

Arrogance, bullying, meanness – just try to be kind, it’s not difficult.

Live in the moment. Enjoy life because time cruelly speeds up as you get older and becomes scarily finite.

A couple of years ago we moved to East Sussex – I had been living in London for 35 years – and couldn’t work out why I kept waking up and thinking, what’s that sound? It was actually silence.

Going to pieces while meeting John Squire, the lead guitarist of the Stone Roses, backstage after a gig. I completely lost the ability to speak. I told him I had the same guitars as he’d just used on stage, and when he asked me which ones, the words completely went out of my head and there was a huge pause, and then his wife tapped his shoulder and he wandered off.