What is the trait you most deplore in others?

Judgmental without investigation.

Lack of understanding and tolerance.

The inability to stop talking about themselves when they’re not being interviewed.

Dishonesty and being late for appointments.

The susceptibility to ideology or tribalism.

Ungratefulness.

It’s a toss-up between mean and petty.

To place faith over facts.

Needless aggression and bullying.

People who make you wait around for them.

The inability to negotiate peace and truly forgive.

The urge to be unpleasant to waitstaff in restaurants.

Meanness and lying.

Bullying, flakiness, rudeness, lack of humility, being patronising and ungenerous.

People who pretend to have perfect marriages. Perfect marriages are like orgasms – many of them are faked.

Selfishness and cruelty.

I always try to see the good. I never look for the bad.

I find it really interesting the way people are drawn to power, usually male power, sometimes in its dark mode. I wonder what they get from it. My experience of bastards is that there is very little material benefit gained from being in their company, though you feel there might be, any minute. Or you get something for a while and then the polarity switches. It’s a huge con. Trump made the mechanism clear – in this, I think he is a timely figure.

I can’t bear people who lie.

Lack of humility, the absence of goodness.