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What is the worst thing anyone has said to you?

122 answers answered between 2007 and 2026 one of 25 in The Q&A

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Robert Carlyle Scottish actor
On Angela's Ashes, Alan Parker said to me, 'You've got the Bafta, just get in the door.' I was walking along the street to go into a shop and he saw me milking it a bit. It was a really good piece of advice.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 23 February 2008 source ↗
Adam Lambert American singer
“You’re never going to make it.” It was some guy I was dating. I had the last laugh.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 25 February 2023 source ↗
Felicity Jones British actress
“You’re a reasonably intelligent girl,” by a teacher, and it drove me crazy and made me want to get into Oxford.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 27 May 2023 source ↗
Adam Kay British comedy writer, author, youtuber, comedian and former physician
A reviewer once called me “artistically bankrupt”, and it doesn’t feel like reviews can get much worse than that.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 June 2023 source ↗
Jason Manford English comedian and singer
Someone once said online that they hated me so much they wanted to stab me with a spoon. A knife’s easy, but a spoon – that takes real hatred.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 July 2023 source ↗
Melanie Blatt English singer
“Your career will be over if you have the baby.”To whom would you most like to say sorry, and why? My parents, for my teenage years. I tried to run away when I was 15. We lived in a fishing village in France and, with my boyfriend, I headed to Spain to sell arts and crafts on the beach. Mum came and took me home.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 29 July 2023 source ↗
Romesh Ranganathan English actor and comedian
My wife when I tried out some new material on her, said: “I’m sure the people who like you would like that.”
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 31 August 2024 source ↗
Chiwetel Ejiofor English actor
“You’ll never do well as an actor unless you change your name.” I’m not going to say who.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 19 October 2024 source ↗
Some man in the street stopped me and said: “If you were a few inches taller you’d be dangerous.” I’ve no idea what he meant.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 26 October 2024 source ↗
In a rehearsal just after graduating from drama college, I say my lines to an older actor. He pauses, turns to the director and says: “I’m sorry, but is she going to do it like that?”
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 May 2025 source ↗
“You’re not in Busted any more.” I successfully auditioned to be in Busted and then a couple of days later I got a phone call to say that I was no longer needed as they were going to keep it as the three of them. But it ended up being OK.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 1 November 2025 source ↗
I was thrown out of a club by bouncers when I walked into somebody and told them that I was registered blind. They said: “Don’t give a fuck – you don’t belong in here.” As a straight white man, it gives you a taste of what other people have to contend with.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 November 2025 source ↗
“What is Seann Walsh and how do we make it die?” It was online, thankfully. It wasn’t in Sainsbury’s.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 31 January 2026 source ↗
People have said, “I wish you would die.” That’s the stark truth of being in the public eye – people dehumanise you and say ghastly things.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 7 March 2026 source ↗

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