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Romantic love – what a con. (I do still believe in it.)
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What disappointment has stayed with you longest?Originally asked
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Kevin Rowland
British singer
My brother Pete passing on in 2005.
Jane Horrocks
British actress
No being able to sing as well as Judy Garland.
Gloria Estefan
Cuban-American singer and songwriter
Not yet being able to sing in a free Cuba.
Zoë Heller
English journalist and novelist
Failing CSE Physics. Twice.
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View profile →In my first job in film, a giant bloke dressed like a sumo wrestler asked me to get his G-string out of his arse. He said he couldn’t reach it.
I had no female role models growing up. I lived an incredibly sheltered life: there was no TV at home and we had no visitors. It wasn’t until rock and pop came into my life that I concocted myself as a role model.
I am going straight to cremation like David Bowie, so there would be no funeral.
The moment my daughter was born in 1999, because it took me seven years to conceive.
It’s like digging a field together: it’s hard work, not very glamorous, but you can stand back and think, “We did that.”
I wish I’d told my mother that, in all the years I knew her, she was never once boring. We weren’t demonstrative, so that would have meant that I loved her.
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