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What is the most important lesson life has taught you?

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Christiane Nüsslein-Volhard Developmental biologist; Nobel laureate in Physiology or Medicine, 1995
Not really. I thought that getting the Nobel Prize was a big interruption in my career, I thought and it was very distracting. It takes a lot of time you know, it just takes time to be honoured, you have to travel and you have to give speeches of things you have, oh it’s so often that you get bored to tears when you hear your own voice. And it’s really taking a lot of your time and there’s no way that during this time you can start something new, I mean you just profit from what you’ve done and there is no time to develop new ideas.
Recorded Marika Griehsel, Interview at the 53rd Lindau Nobel Laureate Meeting, 30 June–4 July 2003, Nobel Prize Outreach, 1 July 2003 source ↗
Mohamed ElBaradei Director General of the International Atomic Energy Agency, 1997-2009; Nobel Peace Prize 2005
I think that is the most important lesson you learn in life, that you have to be ready to make a compromise. You do not compromise your principles, but you have to be ready to compromise. You have to understand that you cannot get your way 100 percent. Life is too complicated. You are not an island, and you work in a social setting, and you need to understand that you work always — at the family level, at the society level — to work out the compromise that is perceived to be fair. You don’t get 100 percent of what you want, but at least you will get the basic minimum that you require.
Recorded Academy of Achievement interview, 2006 source ↗
It occurred to me that at one point it was like I had two diseases – one was Alzheimer's and the other was knowing I had Alzheimer's. There were times when I thought I'd have been much happier not knowing, just accepting that I'd lost brain cells and one day they'd probably grow back or whatever. It is better to know, though, and better for it to be known, because it has got people talking, which I rather think was what I had in mind.
Recorded Written for the Alzheimer's Society in 2008; reprinted by the Observer in the week of his death, The Guardian, 2008 source ↗
Tony Judt Historian and essayist
I think the only life experience that I have to offer out of this is something we all know in the abstract but don't experience in practice very much. That is that you can survive an awful lot of bad stuff, so long as your mind is intact. I'm afraid that's the only life experience I have to offer.
Recorded Terry Gross, Fresh Air, NPR, 29 March 2010 source ↗
Roger Ebert Film critic
I believe that if, at the end, according to our abilities, we have done something to make others a little happier, and something to make ourselves a little happier, that is about the best we can do. To make others less happy is a crime. To make ourselves unhappy is where all crime starts. We must try to contribute joy to the world. That is true no matter what our problems, our health, our circumstances. We must try. I didn’t always know this and am happy I lived long enough to find it out.
Recorded Salon, excerpted from Life Itself: A Memoir, 15 September 2011 source ↗
Christopher Hitchens Essayist, critic and journalist
Before I was diagnosed with esophageal cancer a year and a half ago, I rather jauntily told the readers of my memoirs that when faced with extinction I wanted to be fully conscious and awake, in order to “do” death in the active and not the passive sense. And I do, still, try to nurture that little flame of curiosity and defiance: willing to play out the string to the end and wishing to be spared nothing that properly belongs to a life span. However, one thing that grave illness does is to make you examine familiar principles and seemingly reliable sayings. And there’s one that I find I am not saying with quite the same conviction as I once used to: In particular, I have slightly stopped issuing the announcement that “Whatever doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”
Recorded Vanity Fair, January 2012 source ↗
Matthew Modine American actor
That we are all no more and no less than a single thread in a gigantic web of life. What we do and how we behave has repercussions for the entire web.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 21 January 2023 source ↗
Belinda Carlisle American singer
To stay in the moment and live each day to the maximum. You never know when it’s going to be taken away.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 4 March 2023 source ↗
Rita Wilson American actress, singer, and producer
That you’re stronger than you think you are.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 1 April 2023 source ↗
Bruno Tonioli Italian choreographer
Follow your dream and never give up, because it’s not over until the fat lady sings. Ride the adventure!
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 15 April 2023 source ↗
Frank Cottrell-Boyce British screenwriter, novelist and actor
That it’s impossible to persuade other people of the value of the lessons that life has taught you.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 22 July 2023 source ↗
Clive Myrie British journalist, newsreader, and presenter
Be kind and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 8 June 2024 source ↗
Harlan Coben American author
We are too often advised to live life to the fullest. That’s too much pressure. The key is to find joy and poignancy in the quiet and mundane. Life is lived between the so-called big moments.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 3 August 2024 source ↗
Michael Flatley American step dancer
You’re going to come up against brick walls in life. You’ve got to go over them, under them, around them, or crash through them, but somehow or other you’ve got to get to the other side.
Recorded The Guardian, The Q&A, The Guardian, 10 August 2024 source ↗
Living life to the full, not having regrets and not trying to plan your future too much. Just enjoy every minute.
Recorded The Q&A, The Guardian, 28 September 2024 source ↗

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